Re: spousal abuse
Posted by: cw (IP Logged)
Date: February 08, 2009 12:33PM
To the OP. Sorry that your friend is experiencing humiliation and cruelty from his wife. No one, man or woman should have to experience that treatment from someone who is supposed to love them.
The responses on this topic seem to justify the wife's behavior by suggesting retaliation with the same or worse offenses. You can not fix an abusive relationship by becoming an abuser.
Please tell your friend not to reduce himself to her standards. If he doesn't leave her because of the kids, then he is exposing them to abuse, which is worse than being raised by a single parent.
If he loves her, then they should try counseling. He needs to tell her to stop her behavior when it happens, whether in public or not. Even if he needs to scream at her. It may seem embarrassing at first, but no more embarrassing than her belittling him. Also, he should document her behavior any way possible, then use this documentation to gain custody of his children if it should come to a divorce.
Whatever he decides to do, please remind him to defend his own dignity and try hard to remain a good man for the sake of his children.