Discussion Groups: Talk of the Valley

Have him watch Jon and Kate plus 8, she treats her husband the same way.

If you talk to 100 abused women the one thing they have in common is that they DON'T LISTEN!!!

I agree! Have your friend find himself a REAL nice lookin girlfriend and make sure the wife gets a hint that he is cheating.If she confront6s hi?

Hell yeah I am!! I get better treatment from her than you would ever be able to give me!!

And don't back away from any sex. Women can smell another woman on a guy.

Maybe he'll be lucky enough for her to divorce him for adultry and leave. lol

Kids should in no way be exposed to this kind of scenes. Thay may grow up being the same way towards their spouses because Mommy said it is the way all women should be.

These kind of guys (your friend) are the ones who eventually turn around and kill the whole family before killing himself,to save face.

If the "friend" in the OP knew how to make his wife happy, she'd treat him better. Real men don't beat women, they satisfy them.

That said, is there a moderator anywhere on this site?

The Friend is happy! You need to MYOB! He has a wife and what do you have? You don't know the whole story! The Husband talks to much. What goes on in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom! As well as what does not go on! The friend might have cheated or lied or both. It is a reason he feels he needs to be punished!! That is why he takes it! It has become a pattern. My Boyfriend started to talk down to me as soon as we started to make wedding plans. I toodk inventory. The next time he spoke out of turn. I blasted him! "What is your Problem? Don't you ever talk to me like that again!!" He hasn't! You can't let it go. If no one talked mean and abusive growing up in your house, you will resist. But for some that is the norm! I say never tolerate abuse or bad treaTMENT!! For any reason!! I postponed the wedding! I think that is the problem! If getting married means disrespect to this man. He can forget about it

I actually have a similar problem, my wife has such bad mood swings once a month that she becomes violent and breaks things, I sometimes fear for the kids.

I woke up one night and she was in the living room throwing furniture around with this demonic look in her eyes, the couch was turned over the chair was on it's side and she said she was sick of the furniture, at 3 am.

weird!!

Hymie Wrote:
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> I actually have a similar problem, my wife has
> such bad mood swings once a month that she becomes
> violent and breaks things, I sometimes fear for
> the kids.
>
> I woke up one night and she was in the living room
> throwing furniture around with this demonic look
> in her eyes, the couch was turned over the chair
> was on it's side and she said she was sick of the
> furniture, at 3 am.
>
> weird!!

What you're describing sounds like a medical problem, and you might suggest that your wife get some professional help.

Also, science has proven that men have more monthly mood swings than women, so back off the "once a month" stuff. That kind of talk is a hallmark of a lack of knowlege. We aren't all slaves to our biology.

This kind of behavior is from lack of respect for herself and her husband. She needs counseling.
The minute he takes the upper hand she will loose her controlling attitude.

She is a bully and you have to handle her as a bully. She will back down.

She probably thinks she is better than him and his family, also. In her ind she is near perfect.

He needs to leave her, take his children with him.

To the OP. Sorry that your friend is experiencing humiliation and cruelty from his wife. No one, man or woman should have to experience that treatment from someone who is supposed to love them.

The responses on this topic seem to justify the wife's behavior by suggesting retaliation with the same or worse offenses. You can not fix an abusive relationship by becoming an abuser.

Please tell your friend not to reduce himself to her standards. If he doesn't leave her because of the kids, then he is exposing them to abuse, which is worse than being raised by a single parent.

If he loves her, then they should try counseling. He needs to tell her to stop her behavior when it happens, whether in public or not. Even if he needs to scream at her. It may seem embarrassing at first, but no more embarrassing than her belittling him. Also, he should document her behavior any way possible, then use this documentation to gain custody of his children if it should come to a divorce.

Whatever he decides to do, please remind him to defend his own dignity and try hard to remain a good man for the sake of his children.

So does the guy gamble? Does he work? Does he help with kids? Sit at the computer and look at porn 24/7? If the answers are yes,no,no and yes, the "abusive" wife wants out more than he does. If he is putting up with it he has a guilty conscience. How can you be sure he is not slapping her around at home and she just gets her digs in at him in public? MYOB unless you live in their house because you have no clue.

jimmy hittz Wrote:
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> My friends wife is a total abuser, she will
> belittle him in front of other people, yell at him
> in public, deny him in the bedroom, and stand back
> and dare him to hit her.
>
> Who should be charged with abuse if someday he
> flips and smacks her? He will not file for
> divorce because of the kids and she has said time
> and time again that if he thinks he's leaving, he
> has another thing coming. What would you do?


Is he an ex-firefighter (she made him leave because a female worked there that she didnt like yet she had an affair with someone at her work) and is she a nurse? Did she push him down the stairs before?

Some people are just escalators. I had a co-worker that every boyfriend she had she called the police on. I'm sure at least three of them had never before been in this situation and probably never will again. Somehow this girl was such an escalator, it was amazing. I witnessed it at work once. She started yelling at someone and coming close in to them and yelling and getting in their way and suddenly started accusing them of pushing her and she flew out of the office and filed a claim. I don't think she planned this stuff, it was just the way she carried on when she had disagreements or felt angry.

I have a co-worker that is so manipulated by his wife that he can't go 1 hour without calling her and he always ends the call by appologizing for something.

This guy has come to work with band aids on his face, black eyes, burn marks, bruises, you name it and the kids treat him like crap too.
He claims he is clumsey, nobody is that clumsey!!!

This guy weighs about 130 and she goes about 275 with a rear end the size of a beach ball. She only lets him have $2 a day and makes him get rides to work whenever he can so she can go to lunch with her mother